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I don't feel like myself lately

Maybe you can't even explain exactly what feels different.

  • You're still here.
  • Still showing up.
  • Still doing the things that need to be done.

But somewhere between everything you're carrying and everyone who needs something from you...

you stopped feeling very much like you.

Maybe it sounds a little like this

WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE YOURSELF

It's not always one big thing.

Sometimes it's just little thoughts that keep showing up often enough that you start wondering where you went.

I don't know what I like anymore.

Everything annoys me.

Things I used to think were fun overstimulate me now.

I don't even know what I would do with an entire day to myself.

I barely recognize the person staring back at me.

I have a million balls in the air and somehow feel like I'm dropping every one.

And somehow it still feels like I'm letting everyone down.

SO WHERE DID YOU GO?

Probably nowhere.

You don't usually wake up one morning and suddenly stop feeling like yourself. It's usually quieter than that.

A little more responsibility here. A little less room for yourself there. Another thing to remember, another person who needs something, another day spent getting through everything that needs to get done.

And somewhere along the way, the things that make you you can get harder to hear. Not because they've disappeared.

Everything else just got really loud

The Mental Tabs

Sometimes it's not even everything you're doing.

It's everything you're trying not to forget—the appointment, the unanswered text, what's for dinner, the thing you forgot yesterday, the thing you're already worried you'll forget tomorrow.

Even when you're doing one thing, part of your brain is somewhere else.

Who Everyone Needs

Parent. Partner. Employee. Friend. Caregiver. Problem-solver. Peacekeeper.

Some of those roles may be parts of your life you deeply love. But when so much of your energy goes toward what everyone else needs, one question can get surprisingly hard to answer:

What do I actually want?

When Good Things Feel Like Too Much

The noise. The plans. The questions. The touching. The talking. Even things you normally enjoy can start feeling like one more thing asking something from you.

It doesn't necessarily mean you stopped liking them.

Sometimes there just isn't enough room left to enjoy them.

Autopilot

You can get really good at getting through the day.

Wake up. Remember. Work. Drive. Answer. Solve. Feed people. Find the missing thing. Scroll. Sleep. Repeat.

Then somehow you're looking at a picture from six months ago thinking—

Wait. That already happened?

WHAT'S TAKING UP THE ROOM LATELY?

You don't have to figure everything out.

let's make some space

Just notice what's been asking for pieces of your attention lately. Pick whatever feels true. You can choose more than one.

What's been taking up room in your head, heart, or day?

No pressure. Start with whatever jumps out first.

Start with the little things

 just leave yourself some breadcrumbs


Maybe finding your way back doesn't start with a life-changing realization. Maybe it starts with noticing the little things that are still yours.

pick one that makes you pause

Forget what you've always liked for a second. What sounds good lately? What do you keep choosing, noticing, reaching for, replaying, wearing, eating, or watching?

no need to make it useful

It can be ridiculously small. Quiet. Different music. To stay home. To go somewhere. To eat the thing. To be left alone for twenty minutes. To call someone.

you don't have to do anything with the answer

A song. A certain person. Being outside. Making something. Being funny. Moving. Reading in bed. Driving alone. Talking way too much with someone who gets it.

tiny counts

Something you've wondered about. Wanted to try. Looked up three times. Saved to a folder. Almost signed up for. Keep noticing for no particular reason.

curiosity doesn't need a business plan

there you are

Look what you just told yourself.

Wanting something is information about you.

Not an obligation.   Not a plan.   Not another thing to accomplish.
Information.

YOU DON'T NEED TO FIND THE OLD YOU

Some pieces of you are still here.
Some have changed.
Some you're still figuring out.

But you don't have to go backward to find yourself.

 ♡

find yourself from here

WHERE TO NEXT?

You don't have to figure everything out today. But if you want to keep exploring, here are a few places to go.